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Sister-in-law's birthday today. Sent her a card as I do every year, addressed to Mrs *brother's surname*. This morning me, my sister and spawn have all been added to a Whatsapp group by sister in law with the message "Hi, thanks for the birthday cards, just for the record my surname is *old maiden name-brother's surname*. I kept my maiden name when I got married 24 years agohope you are all well and keeping warm xx". We've all replied with basically the same message "Sorry, didn't realise, will make sure it's correct in the future. Hope you have a great birthday xxx"
There's now another Whatsapp group calling her a passive-aggressive bitch.
I didn't know you were double-barrelled either! Why haven't you sent me a passive-aggressive message?!I wish I hadn't now as it's such a faff. And my work email address is just so longI flit between double-barrel and my married name which causes issues in some places aswell.

She only does aggressive-aggressive. Who do you think has been sending those dead horses heads every year since the wedding?I didn't know you were double-barrelled either! Why haven't you sent me a passive-aggressive message?!![]()
She only does aggressive-aggressive. Who do you think has been sending those dead horses heads every year since the wedding?
So you are officially double-barrelled? I thought it was a jokeI wish I hadn't now as it's such a faff. And my work email address is just so longI flit between double-barrel and my married name which causes issues in some places aswell.

I think we both have major double barrel regret.
But then wouldn't you have a different surname to your children?I think in the moment you just get carried away almost. All my official documents are double barrel, but otherwise I just use my married name. I would change it again but it all takes so long.
So you are officially double-barrelled? I thought it was a joke
What do we write on your cards? That'll be whatever Mr L has in his address book.
My passport, driving licence, work stuff is all double barrelled. But then wouldn't you have a different surname to your children?
Both of us mostly use our original names, but the DB creeping in more and more. Mr Ag has a DB work email, which is unnecessarily long.I think in the moment you just get carried away almost. All my official documents are double barrel, but otherwise I just use my married name. I would change it again but it all takes so long.


but there are definite technological ANNOYANCES.Oh and the bank put spaces before and after the hyphen so my name doesn't fit on the card
Hyphens are pains. Some forms accept them, some don't. My bank card I'm always unsure if I should put it the way it shows on my card, or the "correct" way. We did it because we wanted to adopt our little sproggan and all have the same namebut there are definite technological ANNOYANCES.
Bizarre. It's not like it's strange or particularly uncommon!Try having an apostrophe.
Many forms still don't accept it, and I consider it RACIST.
Bizarre. It's not like it's strange or particularly uncommon!
A "Peachey Rolt" sounds like something a fashionable bakery would sell out of in minutes each morning.My sister-in-law calls us both "Rolt-Peachey" which really annoys me, as we've never double barrelled and it's the WRONG WAY ROUND to actually scan properly.
My passport apparently is technically invalid as when I was 14 I used the shortened version of my full name and no one checked it and it’s just been reissued as such ever since. As a result, my entire life is in the name Dan rather than Daniel, which I like, but technically it isn’t correct as it has to be the same as your birth certificate unless you deed poll change it/ get married etc. I was tempted to change it permanently and give myself a stupid middle name for LOLs but never have gotten around to it.

Been for a mammogram this afternoon. They're done in the local sports/health centre, on the first floor. So I arrived, went up the stairs to the first floor and there was nobody on reception so I walked back downstairs to main reception where there was a sign saying not to book in for breast screening, just take a seat upstairs so I walked back up the stairs again. My Fitbit decided that was me doing a workout, I assume because I lead quite a sedentary lifestyle. It says I was in the active zone for seventeen minutes, I really wasn't - I was just lost in the health centre![]()