but I think what I meant is something called 'fawning' (essentially making people happy to avoid conflict). Obviously she knows how to balance things, but with family it's more difficult to avoid being confronted at some point. She probably has to explain (or ask someone else to say) why she wants to/doesn't want to do things that they don't agree with (such as the 1993 article, she wants to stay in or go on a walk when her mother wanted her to meet family friends, after a long promotional journey). In cases where she gets her way, they might respond like 'that's no excuse, you should've done this, or that' or make her feel guilty for not doing what
they wanted.

Perhaps they (including some siblings) randomly argue about a minor thing she did or didn't do (such as being alongside them, helping out) and after the argument, they'll likely go quiet on her (silent treatment, a form of guilt-tripping, different from simply leaving her alone). I feel like some of her siblings realise the issues, but ignore it, or find it hard to speak up about without causing more trouble. She might have it worst because of the 'oh you'll understand it as a parent' mentality so many people have.

Even when she achieves something (like in the 1993 article when her father was like 'God has given us a beautiful daughter'; he's another case...) the parents seem to see it as
their achievement much more than her own.
I know that Gay Byrne was rather annoying for that Watermark award, but he probably knew that dynamic was the case when he went over to her parents, so had this weird protectiveness or even 'knowing narcissism' (not sure if that's a thing) haha.
But I'd guess making people happy for a bit or 'fawning' is more comfortable than being against them, but obviously she needs some downtime too.
I don't know where to fit these points into the above, but that childhood story with her mother frowning at her mistake for the singing competition, bribing Moya with her allowance of sweets just to play a piano duet with her, and even later, like her 'must be doing something right' comment for her Ulster University honorary award speech, and signing all those autographs, all hint at her having to please others for a bit, to keep safe, in a way.