Beverley you’ve just spent a long time making a very defensive post again. Rather than answer the question about Islam’s take on homosexuality you’ve gone to passing the buck to other religions. As I said, Christianity has for years been put under the microscope in terms of its blatant homophobia and no one (absolutely not one person in this thread) has claimed that Islam is the sole problem in religion. Not one person in here has been racist. Of course Christianity and Judaism have similar issues. But that’s like saying ‘let’s not question Myra Hindley, because Rose West killed kids too’. We should question all and not regard it as racist when someone asks that question.
In regards to your question about what I have done for the gay community: I spend a lot of my time educating children on how we need to have tolerance, respect and understanding of one another’s backgrounds, taking whole school leads in LGBT history month and assemblies etc (like I said, educating predominantly Muslim children, many of whom have been raised to believe that homosexuality is wrong - and also, like I said in my experience of thousands of children, it is almost without exception Muslim children who have been most vocal in their out and out HATRED (and I really do mean that word) of gay people). So yes, I DO actually spend a considerable amount of my time trying to ensure that these two minority groups have a better understanding of one another and with a lot of success - by having these conversations with them and not shying away from the questions. Whilst having these conversations I’ve never once been accused of being racist, Islamophobic or in any way rude to the Muslim community. I have a great deal of respect for the Muslim faith, but with two major reservations: the treatment of women and the treatment of gay people.
But apparently if I do stuff to help integrate and educate minority groups then I’m told ‘Muslims don’t need a saviour’. If I don’t do this stuff then I’m a far-right racist. Ok...
To reject the terms on which you insist on having this conversation does not make me defensive. To see things differently to you does not make me defensive. To reject comparisons with Orthodox Judaism does not make me offended. Please move away from these basic categorisations. Please stop portraying yourself as a martyr, as you do at the end. I am trying to open up this conversation only because I see it as far more complex and delicate than you do.
You specifically said that Christianity had gone under the microscope and that criticism resulted in gay priests and gay marriage. I reject the idea that Christianity has undergone a process and come out the other side. I don't doubt the existence of very real homophobia within Muslim communities. But by broadening the terms of this debate, I explain to you that no religion has overcome its fight with homophobia. You use gay priests as a win, but Islam doesn't have religious institutions, so how do we replicate the process? We can't. And yet we still have gay imams, obviously we do, some of them declare their sexuality openly. Similarly, you use gay marriage as a win, but you can't actually have a gay marriage in a church in Britain. My friend, whose partner is a priest in a VERY inclusive church was FORCED to have a civil ceremony because of the belief that marriage is for heterosexuals. And yet, by contrast, marriage isn't a religious institution at all in Islam. We don't get married in mosques. Marriage is a social contract, which ANY people can put together providing we have the witnesses. So don't impose your cultural baggage onto us. Don't assume that the movements within any two faiths shall be the same.
Whatever example you find, I can contextualise them in terms of the broader challenges that religions have to embrace modernity. You want to talk women's rights, you want to talk integration, whatever. Islam is no different to any religion in any of this. If anything, we have a much tougher job, not because Islam is more difficult, but because our situations are difficult: our societies are young, post-colonial countries with so much shit to figure out. Or our communities in the West are, on the whole, incredibly vulnerable. So what I am rejecting time and time again, is the need to isolate Islam. You argue that without such isolation the conversations around Islam don't take place, but why do you presume this? And why do you presume that those conversations must involve and benefit you primarily? The LGBT Muslim organisation that I was involved in is now 20 years old, it has been engaging in those conversations for that long. In my own work, I have engaged Muslim leaders, organisations, communities on the topic of sexuality. So it is outrageous to behave that Islam is static and that you must be the one to shake it up.
That doesn't mean that Islam doesn't have issues. But the terms on which we discuss Islam is incredibly important. Consider the power dynamics in all this. Islam has been denigrated by the West for about 1000 years. Every stereotype that is levelled at us comes from those times. We are still living under the war on terror, in a climate of rabid Islamophobia endorsed by the state and its machinery. Every time Muslims see their faith or their communities referenced, it is negatively. Do you really think that your criticisms are going to encourage Muslim communities to do their work? Or are they going to sound like yet another person telling us that we are uniquely defective and need to pull our pants up.
That's precisely why I find it galling that you talk in terms of helping Muslims to integrate into our societies - let alone the fact that all indices suggest that Muslims are WELL integrated across Europe and where they are not, they are inhibited by institutional racism. Maybe what you could do to help Muslims is to examine yourself, your assumptions and to educate yourself on Islam. If you want to confront homophobia in Muslim kids, maybe you can point them to the queer friendly interpretations, or the fact that the Quran is, on the whole, a book of justice (if you aren't already). I appreciate the work you do as a teacher and what attitudes you might encounter, but I am also grossed out by the fact that you would use Muslim kids as an example to make broader points about Muslim homophobia. You said 70% of your kids are Muslim, so of course the majority of homophobic kids would share that background. Treating that as a radical stat is unbecoming even of you! Let me just say this: when I was bullied by kids at school, it wasn't just the Muslim ones - it was by every single one. And if I was a parent and I had any inkling of what you've said here (you might respect Islam, but isn't that the well-meaning liberal dilemma, to respect something but ultimately believe it's problematic and inferior?!) I wouldn't want you to teach my kids. But let's also be clear: the kids that would have benefited from Goldblum's conversation most as the queer muslim ones, not the homophobes, and unfortunately, what the show reinforced was the conflict between religion and sexuality.
Some smaller points:
- well over half of the countries that have homophobic laws in place were former British colonies. it helps to know that homophobia in those countries is as much our legacy as it is theirs
- Birmingham, the protests were terrible, but there is an under discussed problem of how the state promotes LGBT rights under its Prevent/anti-extremist agenda in schools
I'm sure you'll have a massive response, but I want to let you know that I'm probably not going to reply. I am not responsible for anybody's racism education. Plus, I have spent more than a decade speaking about Islam on this forum and whilst willingly taking the role of explainer, the fact that i'm still doing it (on exactly the same terms), in a place where i respect most people, is quite dispiriting. I'm tired of the endless explaining and microaggressions. I won't do it anymore. If you want materials, however, I would be happy to do that via PM.